In order for relationship to be healthy and lasting here are a few things we should do.
Sometimes we get so caught up in living life that we forget about the small things... these mount up and before we know it things have gone wrong and you can't turn back the hands of time....
Spend adequate time examining yourself, your needs and desires. Communicate your needs to your partner, ask for what you desire (do not demand or expect).
Educate yourself - but don't believe everything you hear or read. Trust reputable sources, but make your own mind up about what is the truth.
then when you have a dispute you are able to back up what you are saying.
Learn what your needs, desires and goal are; define them adequately. Make a list. Discuss them with your partner - see how they fit together.
Learn the difference between what you need and what you desire. Sometimes you cannot have both.
Learn to compromise. Learn how to negotiate. Don't be afraid to ask, question and communicate.
Learn and understand your limitations, in depth.
Do not expect too much from yourself or your partner - be realistic!
Remember common sense, and use it. Do not insist that you are right all the time, be flexible!Remember others also have agendas and they may not be the same as yours.
Respect yourself at all times, if you respect yourself you will be treated with respect.
Do not suffer abuse from anyone. Accept responsibility for your own happiness and welfare.
Own your feelings, don't do things only to satisfy your partner. Be honest with yourself.
Be patient. A happy balanced relationship takes time to build and substantiate. Allow yourself adequate time for healing when you have been hurt. Be as interested in what your partner feels and says as you are in yourself.
Remember that you and your partner are human and entitled to understanding, compassion and support. Seek advice if needed but be careful of who you choose to guide you.
Take pride and strive for excellence in everyday life. Take pride in your appearance. Remember to keep yourself at your ultimate.. you are lovers now and would love it to continue... don't let yourself go just because you have found wht you are looking for... you need to make an effort to keep each other happy and satisfied!
It is your responsibility to be of good health and to advise your partner of any change in that regard.
Be willing to consider, with an open mind, what your partner suggests or requests.
Understand that it takes two to make a partnership work. Be willing to accept your share of the blame when things go wrong.
Remember that it is a partnership and be a helper, friend, lover, husband, mother, wife or whatever. Only you can give that to each other...
Like yourself, love yourself, be your own best friend.
Be careful what you wish for...you may just get it.
Forgive yourself and your partner for mistakes.
Ask your partner for help when you need it.
Respect your partner and in turn expect respect from your partner.
Have realistic expectations of your partner and yourself.
Be patient, Loving and kind
If all else fails just smile
and think back knowing you did
your best....
After all we are all only human
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